if you can't love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else? - rupaul

Self love is one of the most vital components of living a happy life — and one most of us somehow manage to neglect. After all, you are the person you spend the most time with, so shouldn’t you enjoy your own company? Spoiler alert: Yes. The voice inside your head should be pumping you up, not putting you down; so if you’re guilty of beating yourself up (don’t worry, we all do it) it’s time to make a change for the better. Training your brain to engage in positive self-talk by adopting a mantra, or several, will increase your confidence, reduce stress, boost your mood, and generally make life better. Sound good? We thought so. Here are six of our favorite feel-good quotes that will help point you in a positive direction.


it takes courage to grow up and become who you really are - ee cummings

your body hears everything your mind says - unknown

In the age of social media it can be all too easy to fall down the rabbit hole of comparing yourself to others. One glance at a staged and filtered photo op can make you feel inadequate and send you into a self-criticism spiral. Alert: THIS IS A TRAP. Don’t fall for it. Instead, remember the wise words we’ve presented because there is only one you and you’ve only got one life, babe. Don’t waste it being mean to yourself!

it's not who you are that holds you back, it's who you think you're not - unknown

it's not your job to convince anyone of your worth. you were born worthy. period. - unknown

Rather than read these once and let them slip from your memory, repeat them to yourself every day. Yes, you might feel silly at first but making positive self talk into a habit helps it to become second nature. It’s like working out to build endurance — the more you practice self love, the better you become at it and the easier it becomes. Try jotting these down on post-its and sticking them on your bathroom mirror or in your wallet. Or print out and frame your favorites, then place them around your house or at your desk. Whether you start or end your day with affirmations or you take a mid-day break to remind yourself how dope you are, you’ll begin to rewire your brain. The result? A stronger, more positive you — starting on the inside.

don't trade your authenticity for approval - unknown

Which mantra will you be incorporating into your self care routine? Tell us in the comments!

xo